Sexuality Definition Round-Up
Sexuality Definition Round-Up
Homosexuality: this is the term used when one person is attracted to another person of the same gender. This is an identity thing, not just a bedroom thing. Because of the persecution that the LGBTQIA community experiences, we gotta stick together. Some people choose not to be an active part of the community, and that's fine, too.
LGBTQIA: This is an acronym generally understood as Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender Queer/Questioning Intersex Asexual/Ally. This is by no means a complete overview of all the different sexualities and genders out there, but it's a good start.
Cisgender: This is an identification for people who identify as the gender they were born with.
Queer: This is an umbrella term to refer to people who are not heterosexual (attracted to the opposite gender) and cisgender. A lot of people don't identify with that label, so be careful when using it.
Gender: Something completely different than sex. Sex refers to the body parts and hormones you were born with. Sex does not change based on identity, unless you get surgery or take medication to change them in order to fit your identity. Gender, on the other hand, is the identity you have. It is not based in body parts or hormones, but rather what you know you are.
AMAB/AFAB: These stand for ‘assigned male at birth’ and ‘assigned female at birth’. These terms take the place of just male and female, because not everyone identifies as such. An AMAB/AFAB person can be cisgender or transgender; the term just refers to what body parts you were born with. Some people prefer to use the terms DMAB/DFAB (designated male/female at birth) instead.
Asexuality: This is a sexual orientation where the person doesn’t experience sexual attraction. This doesn’t mean they don’t want sex or need sex - the need for sex varies from asexual to asexual, just like it does with everyone else. This just means that they don’t feel sexually attracted to other people. They could feel romantically, platonically, sensually, or emotionally attracted to the other person, which is how an asexual sustains relationships. Just like an allosexual (the term used for people who are the opposite of asexual) experiences different types of attraction to different types of people, the asexual feels the same, just without the sexual component.
Genderfluid: A gender identity in which the person can move across the infinite genders fluidly, experiencing any amount of gender identities at any given time. Let’s pretend for a second that the only options are boy and girl. The genderfluid person will be sometimes boy. Sometimes girl. Sometimes both. Sometimes neither. Sometimes 60% boy, 25% girl, 15% neither. It all depends on the moment and the person. This isn’t to say that the genderfluid person can’t decide which gender they are. It just means that they are capable of experiencing more than one at once.
Transgender: This is the experience of not identifying as the gender you were assigned at birth. This is also an umbrella term, referring to the infinite genders that are not cisgender. For example, if you identify as bigender, you would fall under the transgender umbrella. Sometimes, trans people get surgery to align their bodies with the gender they identify as, but this medicalization of transgender doesn’t make the person more or less transgender. It’s just a personal choice.
Bisexual: This refers to someone who is attracted to their gender and another gender. Some bisexuals are only attracted to binary people, i.e. Only people with male or female body parts whose identities stereotypically align with the body parts they were born with.
Pansexual: This refers to someone who is attracted to more than two genders.
The Closet: A term referring to the state of being wherein one is not open to the majority of their acquaintances about their sexual orientation or gender identity. Sometimes, a person can be in the closet even to themselves. The process of coming out of the closet fully is lifelong for most LGBTQIA people. For example, if you've come out of the closet to the people you already know, but you meet someone new, you might want to come out to them, too. There is no way or time that is right for everyone to come out. If you're thinking about doing it, you should make sure that you're ready and that it's safe for you to do so. And since sexuality is fluid, some people might want to come out as more than one thing in their lifetime.
Love: Something we can all experience in different ways for one another, regardless of sexual preference and gender identities.