From the Archives: How Not To React To The LGBTQIA+ Community
How Not To React To The LGBTQIA+ Community
Just So You Know
1. Don’t tell a pansexual person that they’re really bisexual. THERE IS A BINARY. Some people only are attracted to people on that binary. Some people aren’t. Those people are pansexual. The end.
2. Don’t confuse asexuality with all the myths out there about what asexuality really is. Asexuality means lack of sexual attraction, not lack of sex drive. Lack of sex drive would be called low libido. Some asexuals don’t have a sex drive. Some asexuals have a sex drive, but prefer to only masturbate. Some asexuals really really love sex. It’s a spectrum. As with all spectrums, people wind up on different parts of it.
3. Speaking of myths, don’t buy into them. Not all gay guys are buff white males. Not all lesbians are tough girls with short hair. The wonderful thing about stereotypes is that they’re stupid, and you, as an intelligent human being, don’t have to believe them. Embrace all people, whether they fit into your narrative of what an LGBTQIA person is or not.
4. Not all LGBTQIA people are queer. There are many different letters in the label ‘LGBTQIA’, as well as many left out letters. Just like someone who is LGBTQIA isn’t necessarily a lesbian, someone with is LGBTQIA doesn’t have to be queer. Ask before you label.
5. And ask before you use someone’s pronouns! You can never know just by looking at someone what their pronouns are. Never, ever, ever. A simple way to find out someone’s pronouns is by asking easy questions like, “Hey! What pronouns do you use?” It’s not that difficult. Don’t make it a problem.
6. Some LGBTQIA people are very politically involved. Some are not. Some don’t really want to talk to every person they meet about trans people and bathrooms. As when discussing any subject on the planet, be respectful of people’s boundaries.
7. Trans people aren’t necessarily male to female or female to male. Some trans people are genderfluid, genderqueer, bigender, agender, Two Spirit, or any of the other infinite genders there are on the planet. Remember, kids: gender and sex are two very different things!
8. Trans people don’t have to get bottom surgery in order to ‘really be trans’. You know what a trans person has to do in order to really be trans? Not be cisgender (meaning, identifying with the gender they were assigned at birth). It’s just that easy.